Wednesday, August 26, 2009

don't blame fate for what's happening in your life...


i have posted about this before but i wasn't too detailed about it....... so here's take 2!

i used to believe that everything happens for a reason but as the number in my age increases the more i deviate from that reasoning...

anyone who thinks everything happens for a reason is naive or is in denial..... if you hit your car to a tree does that mean everything happens for a reason? no, you're probably on the phone and not paying attention on the road or simply put, you're just being a dumb ass.... you and your ex broke up and now you're getting married to the man of your dreams, everything happens for a reason? nope, you just finally came to your senses that you deserve someone better and now you're reaping the good results..... so your wife decides to file for a divorce and now you're free, everything happens for a reason? again a big no, you were a d*ck-head or you're not paying attention to your wife's needs that's why she left you..... ofcourse it could be other things like you made the wrong decision of choosing whom to marry.... anyway, i can go on and on but i'm sure you're getting my point -- i hope.....


it's all about acceptance and taking responsibility for our actions.....


i mean, c'mon, if everything happens for a reason where's free will in that? are you telling me that our life has been layed out since we were born? don't you think that's not fair? we're not puppets.... we make choices...... one of God's greatest gift for men and the one thing that made us  above all of God's creation is the gift of free will..... but free will must be protected at all costs....God sacrificed his Son so we could have a choice between heaven and hell but that's a whole different topic.....

anyway.......

like in my case, for example:

1. i'm single not because everything happens for a reason but because i think i deserve to wait for someone (1) who loves me  (2) who thinks i'm altar-bound

2. my partners kicked me to the curb not because everything happens for a reason but because we have different ideals on how to run a company and because i chose to live here in the U.S.

3. i have a good job here in the U.S. not because everything happens for a reason but because i worked hard to get it and it involves a lot of patience and sacrifice and prayers.....


so again, i really believe it's all about acceptance and taking responsibility for our actions..... don't blame fate for what's happening in your life, you made it happen...... don't be naive to think that you have nothing to do with what's happening, it's called  cause and effect....

everything happens for a reason? screw that.... everything happens as an aftermath of your own actions...... everything happens because of the decisions you made......

 

2 comments:

dexter alegarbes said...

Dude you've taken it totally out of context. But i get wer ur coming from. Sometimes people say everything happens for a reason just so they could explain all the shitty things that have happened in their life. Like maybe all the things that has happend to you, happend so you could have this self realization that..... Well..... Nothing happens for a reason.....ΓΌ

:: Ayeen :: said...

"Sometimes people say everything happens for a reason just so they could explain all the shitty things that have happened in their life" <-- exactly...thats exactly what i meant by they're on denial...they dont want to admit that those shitty things happend bec they have "somehow" contributed for that thing to happen....

as for ithe "realization" part.... you may be right but that sounds like sweet-lemoning to me, lol (sweet-lemoning: to speak positively of one's situation, but in truth, the situation one is in is not really good, kinda opposite of sour-graping) ...but that's good...its always good to find good things out of a bad situation and thinking that something good would come out of it....it helps us to bounce back from ordeals quickly...

but my point is...nothing happens just because it's bound to happen..... things happen because something or someone made that happen....

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