everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt...

i have read somewhere about the comparison between a cat and a dog..... cats are usually aloof and they usually would run away from you or show you their paws and hiss....... unlike with dogs who are naturally friendly and sweet and trusting.......

and from where i read this topic, cats and dogs are also compared to people when they meet new people..... like for example in my case.... people always thought i'm reserved and quiet and aloof--yeah, just like a cat but i just need to warm up a little............. so when it comes to dating and meeting don't take it personally if at first i don't seem to like you, i just don't trust you yet and it would take time before i finally do........ like, i have this friend that it took a few months before i told that person my real name.......... just be patient, it would come..... .. but then again, there are instances when i don't really like the person.... i mean c'mon, don't be a hypocrite, we all have our preferences........ and the obvious manifestation that i don't like someone is when i ignore that person and when i refuse to go out with that person........ anyway, that's an all different story.....

so, am i dog or a cat? i would say a little bit of both...... when i was younger i was like a dog, very trusting but always take life with a "pinch of salt" but as i get older i started to become more like a cat, less trusting with each passing year and the "pinch of salt" became a "a bowl", lol...... but, well, i do meet some people that i would just trust right away.....maybe it depends on the chemistry but i trust them only to a limit.....

bottom line is, it takes time to build trust..... everyone at some point in their lives have been betrayed and hurt, ergo, the trust issues.... whether it's in a small scale or "life-altering" scale it doesn't matter because it still affects how we deal with people...... i admit that sometimes i can be very cynical when people try to befriend me or get close to me but i try to suspend judgement until i really get to know that person..... i want people to give me the benefit of the doubt and it's only fair that i do the same with them, don't you think?