how do you know if it's time to move on and to let go? : a sequel

now these are the replies i really find interesting....

comment #1:

limbo.

yeah. I'm there. we're still together, hanging on by a string for the past six months. he's ended things four times now, but we always end up back in limbo.

Honestly, if I had the balls, I'd do what I'm gonna tell your friend to do. Give him two weeks.

It doesn't matter if she blames herself. For one thing, she shouldn't. And another thing, bullcrap he's "tramatized." If he wants her, he'll find a way to be with her. I tell myself this every day in an attempt to leave my J for good before he leaves me again. If a man wants to be with you, really wants to make it work, if he really loves you, he'll find a way to make it work. Sometimes they need that time limit, that push. Otherwise, he has her where he wants her, feeling guilty and trapped under him. He knows he can always have her if he feels like getting her. If she's leaving for good and he loves her like he says he does, he'll go after her.

And if he doesn't go after her, then she shouldn't look back. No one should beg and wait and put their social and love lives on hold for someone who doesn't want them. She, and every woman, deserves to be with someone who is just as crazy about her as she is about him. If she's going to go the distance and give up her heart to him, he should better be there running up to offer her the same thing.

I'm done.

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comment #2: (from my bestfriend joy)

Yup. Just like what was mentioned, tell your friend to just give manila-ex two weeks to think things through. Whatever he says, your friend should respect manila-ex's decision. If in case manila-ex cannot decide still after two weeks, then your friend should let go and move on with her life. She needs to love and respect herself for she already gave enough of what she can give to manila-ex.

Yeah your friend did hurt manila-ex but that was in the past and it should stay there. Your friend and manila-ex should know that its their future they're talking about this time around. And if manila-ex is still unsure then that says it all. Doesn't it?

Life is so short. Time is so precious and if we keep using it regretting and paying for past mistakes, what then will our future hold? Would it just be a continuous make-up for the past? I don't think so.

you can find what triggered these replies here ---> http://sweetsentiments.multiply.com/journal/item/605/._how_do_you_know_if_its_time_to_move_on_and_to_let_go